Today was a Bad Day. | A Lesson on Self-Love

I’m feeling a bit down today. A little off. Really moody.

I had a different post planned for today that I was trying to finish up this morning, but I was really not feeling it at all. I didn’t like how it had turned out. I wasn’t really inspired for it to even be fixed. So I just scrapped it and accepted that nothing was going up on my blog today.

Well, the day progressed and I went to buy groceries and I made myself a turkey sandwich. For some reason in this time, my mood totally plummeted. I was in a horrible mood buying groceries and I literally cried while making my turkey sandwich.

Why?

I honestly don’t know. Today just wasn’t my day, and that’s okay.

I decided to just let myself have today as a bad day. I wasn’t going to worry about getting up that blog post or going to the gym or eating well. I was just going to let myself have a day to sulk and feel better the next.

Sometimes you just have those days. It’s a bad day and you don’t even know why.

I think what I learned from today is the power of accepting that some days just aren’t going to be great, aren’t going to be productive, aren’t going to be anything, really. They are just blah days, and it’s okay to let them happen.

While I was making that turkey sandwich I decided how I was going to let this bad day just be survivable. My goal wasn’t to make it a good day. It wasn’t to make it a productive day. It was simply to make it survivable.

So, I made my turkey sandwich. I had some strawberries because I just bought strawberries and they were lookin’ good. I also got some chips and dip because forget you, wholesome meal! Today is a bad day. I even thought to myself, ‘I might have a Pepsi, even though soda is something I usually avoid. Today is a bad day’.

I decided I was going to spend the literal rest of the day watching YouTube because I’m addicted to it and I normally try to limit myself, but not today. And if there was something else I felt like doing, I’d do that. Or if I didn’t feel like doing something else, then I won’t do anything else.

Today was going to be a bad day and that was going to be okay.

This act of self-love, simply allowing myself the mood I was in, managed to make me feel just a little bit better. Before this, I was thinking only about ways to survive this bad day externally, but now it was as if I were there for myself. I was patient with myself. I let myself cope with my emotions instead of pushing them aside.

There’s a sort of stigma about being sad that comes accidentally with the fact that generally, we do not want to be sad.

We feel like we can’t be sad.

We feel like we have to be happy and motivated and productive all the time.

I think what I realized today is that sometimes it’s healthier to just let yourself feel whatever you are feeling, instead of constantly trying to change it or improve it or make it last. Sometimes this is just the kind of self-acceptance you need to make yourself feel at ease internally, whether or not your bad day goes away.

I understood pretty quickly what accepting today as a bad day meant to me. I know that I’m not a self-destructive person, and ironically, letting myself have the bad day made this crystal clear.

I was validating myself and my emotions, even though externally there was honestly nothing wrong.

So, here I am. I had a little extra coffee today and then felt inspired, amidst the bad day, to write this post and share with you my revelations. Not what I expected to do at all today.

Today was a bad day, and I let it be.

Sometimes you owe it to yourself this act of self-love.

14 Comments

  1. July 10, 2017 / 4:15 pm

    Yes! So much yes! I totally, wholly agree with all of this. I give myself so much anxiety trying to be constantly productive and living a full life, and it makes me even more anxious when I’m in a mood like this and literally can’t do anything. Sometimes you just have to own the bad day and curl in with yourself. I think the pressure to make every day wonderful makes these days seem worse, but when you think of it as an act of self-love to let yourself, it’s not so bad. I love this outlook. I’m going to try applying it to myself.

    Breanna Catharina
    toocuteforlife.com

    • Anthropolojay
      July 10, 2017 / 5:00 pm

      Thank you so much Breanna!! And that’s so true – the pressure to always have a great day really accentuates how not great the day is haha!

  2. July 10, 2017 / 4:24 pm

    Totally agree! It’s ok to have bad days, and to just go with it… Makes us feel a little better afterwards 🙂 even if we wish the day was over asap ^^ x

    Kirsty
    http://www.corinneandkirsty.com

  3. July 10, 2017 / 4:27 pm

    I absolutely love this post. We all forget sometimes that we can just have days when everything feels a bit blehhhhh. Feel better, amazing post ❤️

  4. July 10, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    Yah we all have our days and it’s not helpful to even try and fight it! Really appreciate this post because most people nowadays don’t like to share these types of moments! Especially sites like Instagram ! Super relatable post, keep them up!

    Shaunakabana.com

    • Anthropolojay
      July 10, 2017 / 5:01 pm

      Thanks Shauna! I totally agree. I’ve found that the people I tend to follow the most and really feel are a fresh of breath air are the ones who share their ups AND their downs.

  5. July 10, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    I totally agree it’s only normal to have bad days every now and then as much as they bring us down more than anything they also help to show us how strong we can be when they do come around ?

  6. July 10, 2017 / 4:32 pm

    Gosh yes, I totally feel you. I’ve been stuck in this limbo for so long and I used to beat myself so much over it when I should just accept that it’s a bad day and allow myself to watch trash tv and stuff myself with chocolate.

    I’m so glad you wrote this post, because I feel like there are still a lot of bloggers who feel like we got to hustle all of the time and never fail. It’s quite refreshing to admit that we can’t be completely positive all of the time.

    • Anthropolojay
      July 10, 2017 / 5:03 pm

      Yes! I think when people can share both the ups and the downs in an honest manner is so refreshing. Thanks so much Lizzie!

  7. July 10, 2017 / 4:34 pm

    YES! I totally get this post! I am the worst for worrying when I have a bad day. Luckily I have a stock pile of blog posts so if I have a bad day there’s still something to go up but I really do need to give in and accept that having a bad days okay!
    PaleGirlRambling xo

    • Anthropolojay
      July 10, 2017 / 5:04 pm

      Thanks Rachael! Aah, that’s something I need to do. I have a reealllyy skimpy stock pile for those days that I just can’t bring myself to write. While there are days where it’s okay to just not post (like today for me), it’s nice to have that backup!

  8. July 10, 2017 / 4:41 pm

    I get this on so many levels. Like, those days are so hard, but at the same time it’s important to let yourself feel that, as you said… thanks for the reminder,actually!

  9. July 10, 2017 / 4:53 pm

    Were you me, today? Thank you for reminding me that this is fine. I’m gonna let today be and treat myself to a blueberry muffin. May your next not-your-day be survivable!

    • Anthropolojay
      July 10, 2017 / 5:05 pm

      Thanks Carly, and same to you!! Yes, you eat that blueberry muffin haha! Hope you feel better soon!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *